“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” – Mother Teresa
Even though it is a normal thing to have conflicts between family members, it becomes a big issue when it is an ongoing process. It being a normal thing does not allow us to take to further extremes. Here are 6 of many tips to avoid family conflicts:
- State the issue and discuss who needs to solve it. This allows clarity and understanding instead of ignoring and developing into a bigger issue. Here you can more information about creating a common ground of understanding in relation to the issue. https://blog.careacademy.com/avoiding-family-conflicts
- Develop ground rules before the conflict resolution. For instance, not calling each other names and no yelling before the discussion starts.
- Give out potential solutions This should be done in a complete where no one critics anyone’s idea but more of gathering possible solutions for a specific issue. For instance, when there is an issue of sharing heritage, one can suggest sharing equitably to people directly related through parents.
- Assess the possible benefits and risks for each solution This is more of breaking down each of the mentioned solutions into the pros and cons to be able to choose the best solution. For instance, the disadvantages and advantages of sharing heritage equitably among people directly related to parents.
- Chose a solution as a team Try to choose the solution that will be beneficial to everyone. Everyone should be willing to negotiate and be open to new solutions and change. For example, among the many provided solutions the one that could be advantageous to everyone.
- Every family member should identify their task in implementing the solution After having come up with the solution everyone should take part in implementing it. For example, if the issue is heritage, one can take part in looking for official papers, the other in charge of finding lawyers, etc.
A lot may come with trying to keep your family in good relations as time passes. But what truly matters is what is done in order to avoid what may separate your loved ones.
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