Causes of Family Disputes

Have you ever been in a situation where you are not on talking terms with your family? I have. I mean we all know how unpleasant it is!

It is normal that it is not always going to be lovey dovey in our families. It is also normal that we can sometimes (if not most of the times) with our siblings and parents. Though simple fights are normal, it becomes another issue when they turn into big fights. The following are four main things that can cause disputes in families:

Financial status. One of the things that can seriously cause disputes among people of the same family is money. I know it is not always talking about money but let’s all face it, we need to. I had an experience of two siblings who were very close. When the older brother died, the two siblings started to fight over who will take all the heritage. This created hatred for years and years which made their children not talk to each other yet they were cousins. Think about it. Money in the end is what we are living for in this world. However, you are the one who is in control of letting it take a hold on you or not.

Sibling Rivalry. Most of us grew up in family where the older brother wanted to be the boss of the house, haven’t we? This is fine when we are still kids and are having a good time playing the boss in the house. This can turn into something bigger the more we grow which creates a kind of competition between siblings.

Child Discipline. We all grew up when we had family rules that we were not allowed to go beyond. For instance, not picking fights, respecting elders, caring for one another, etc. This is the discipline that our parents teach us and it stays in us if we are that lucky. The parent’s disability to introduce a certain kind of discipline among kids can lead to family disputes.

In-laws and Extended Family. Have ever had that aunt who is trying to control your and influence your parents through family decision making? Well, I have. We all love our aunts who are in some cases sweet and caring, but it becomes an issue when extended family come meddling in your own family issues. The implication of in-laws and extended family members can as well lead to family disputes.

All in all, we all love people who are related to us through blood. And as mentioned above, it is normal to pick fights with people we cherish because there is no way of agreeing on the same things every time. What really matters is to know the cause of the quarrels which will in turn lead to finding solutions for dealing with the issue which we will see in the next blog post. Stay tuned for more about family disputes.