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Family Affection

“To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer.”
— Mahatma Gandhi

Most of the people have heard this saying: “family is the most important thing.” But do we really take into account the meaning of the words? It is automatic to love your family if you are in good conditions with them. But what do we do beyond keeping that love in ourselves is what really matters. For instance, asking your loved ones how their day was, being appreciative to what they do for you, and being considerate and affectionate towards their issues. Showing affection is the act of showing love, care and concern towards someone. Showing affection to your loved ones is what keeps them fresh and feel really loved in return.

Somebody not having the affectionate nature may wonder how they can show affection. Because let’s face it, not everyone is. The following are some of the tips explained further that one can use to show affection to their family: offer affectionate contact, tell them how you feel, give them gifts, and help them.Offer affectionate contact. In other words, the small touch on the shoulder and hand squeeze will show your loved ones you are there for them.

Tell them how you feel. This involves telling them you love them as much as you can to show them you care. Moreover, affectionate hugs and words of encouragement can also be useful.

Give them gifts. Gestures are the ones that matter. Therefore, you don’t have to spend much money on gifts. Just something little but meaningful that reminds that you are there.

Help them. Helping doesn’t require great things. It is just being thoughtful and considerate to know what they need and help them with it. For examples, helping your Mom cook, helping your brother to repair his bike, and being there whenever they ask for help.

All in all, showing family affection is one of the major aspects to help strengthen family bonds. As mentioned above family affection is the act of showing love, care and concern towards someone. It is important to keep in mind showing affection because it not only strengthen family bonds but also create a sense of trust and support towards one another. Henceforth, starting off with small gestures such a simple “how was your day”, “how was your night” can be a good start for showing affection and strong family bonds. Keeping in mind the four steps can be a great boost towards strong family bonds.

Kindness and Love

Family love refers to bonds characterised by deep affection, respect, loyalty, and healthy attachment.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. It is in everyone’s responsibility to show all the kindness acts to the ones we love.

Love is all it takes to wake up with a smile in the morning and cherish the ones around us.

Being patient with our siblings and parents is among one of the determinants of love and support towards family.

Causes of Family Disputes

Have you ever been in a situation where you are not on talking terms with your family? I have. I mean we all know how unpleasant it is!

It is normal that it is not always going to be lovey dovey in our families. It is also normal that we can sometimes (if not most of the times) with our siblings and parents. Though simple fights are normal, it becomes another issue when they turn into big fights. The following are four main things that can cause disputes in families:

Financial status. One of the things that can seriously cause disputes among people of the same family is money. I know it is not always talking about money but let’s all face it, we need to. I had an experience of two siblings who were very close. When the older brother died, the two siblings started to fight over who will take all the heritage. This created hatred for years and years which made their children not talk to each other yet they were cousins. Think about it. Money in the end is what we are living for in this world. However, you are the one who is in control of letting it take a hold on you or not.

Sibling Rivalry. Most of us grew up in family where the older brother wanted to be the boss of the house, haven’t we? This is fine when we are still kids and are having a good time playing the boss in the house. This can turn into something bigger the more we grow which creates a kind of competition between siblings.

Child Discipline. We all grew up when we had family rules that we were not allowed to go beyond. For instance, not picking fights, respecting elders, caring for one another, etc. This is the discipline that our parents teach us and it stays in us if we are that lucky. The parent’s disability to introduce a certain kind of discipline among kids can lead to family disputes.

In-laws and Extended Family. Have ever had that aunt who is trying to control your and influence your parents through family decision making? Well, I have. We all love our aunts who are in some cases sweet and caring, but it becomes an issue when extended family come meddling in your own family issues. The implication of in-laws and extended family members can as well lead to family disputes.

All in all, we all love people who are related to us through blood. And as mentioned above, it is normal to pick fights with people we cherish because there is no way of agreeing on the same things every time. What really matters is to know the cause of the quarrels which will in turn lead to finding solutions for dealing with the issue which we will see in the next blog post. Stay tuned for more about family disputes.

6 Ways to Avoid Family Conflicts

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” – Mother Teresa

Even though it is a normal thing to have conflicts between family members, it becomes a big issue when it is an ongoing process. It being a normal thing does not allow us to take to further extremes. Here are 6 of many tips to avoid family conflicts:

State the issue and discuss who needs to solve it. This allows clarity and understanding instead of ignoring and developing into a bigger issue. Here you can more information about creating a common ground of understanding in relation to the issue. https://blog.careacademy.com/avoiding-family-conflicts

Develop ground rules before the conflict resolution. For instance, not calling each other names and no yelling before the discussion starts.

Give out potential solutions This should be done in a complete where no one critics anyone’s idea but more of gathering possible solutions for a specific issue. For instance, when there is an issue of sharing heritage, one can suggest sharing equitably to people directly related through parents.

Assess the possible benefits and risks for each solution This is more of breaking down each of the mentioned solutions into the pros and cons to be able to choose the best solution. For instance, the disadvantages and advantages of sharing heritage equitably among people directly related to parents.

Chose a solution as a team Try to choose the solution that will be beneficial to everyone. Everyone should be willing to negotiate and be open to new solutions and change. For example, among the many provided solutions the one that could be advantageous to everyone.

Every family member should identify their task in implementing the solution After having come up with the solution everyone should take part in implementing it. For example, if the issue is heritage, one can take part in looking for official papers, the other in charge of finding lawyers, etc.

A lot may come with trying to keep your family in good relations as time passes. But what truly matters is what is done in order to avoid what may separate your loved ones.